Living Together With The Boyfriend For The First Time

If you’ve been following my online journey for the past 5 years then you’ll know that I’ve only been in one serious relationship. Ryan, he’s the one I met on Tinder, the boy I fell completely in love with and the one I bought a house with. To some this may seem a little extreme, especially once you learn that we’ve only been with each other for about 2 years but when I knew, I knew – It was as simple as that.

After spending weeks trying to work out if Ryan was a real person or not – I mean who doesn’t have any form of social media these days? We finally went on a date, and after our first meal together we practically saw each other every evening from then on. We never did the whole playing it cool thing, we didn’t waste months trying to work out where we were in the relationship, we just started it by telling each other the truth, and I think that’s probably why we have such a trusting relationship now.

couple, grace mandeville, boyfriend and girlfriend, sunset, holiday, cyprus,

A few months in and we worked out that it made a lot more sense to cook and have an evening in at Ryans flat for a date than spend money going out to a restaurant every evening – Note to self: If you start to get bored of eating out at restaurants then you’ve eaten out too much Grace (and yes, it was a very expensive time). After a while it turned from a few evenings a week to a weekend now and then to practically every evening and every weekend at his.

Now the reason I’m telling you all of this is because I’ve had a lot of you ask me about ‘Living With A Boyfriend For The First Time’ and I can only answer out of experience – obviously. I genuinely think the reason it felt so right and easy for Ryan and I was because we managed to spend so much time together in our own environment to learn about each other (Ryan’s flat). Well, that and the fact that he moved in with my parents for a few months before we bought the house we are in now so that he could save some money rather than pay it on rent, and if he could survive that I knew Ryan could survive anything with me.

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There are some things I have learnt about living together though. For instance, you need to talk to each other, sounds obvious I know but hear me out. If one of you is always doing the washing up and the other person doesn’t even attempt to try and help out, naturally after a week this will annoy you, you’ll start to get frustrated with your partner and that’s completely fair enough. But unless you talk to that person and explain how you are feeling you can’t expect them to change or do anything differently. I use washing up as an example because Ryan never washes up, but then again I never do the washing and drying of clothes and rarely do the cooking, so I can’t complain too much.

Decisions cause arguments. I always thought Ryan and I had very similar taste, and the majority of the time we do. But when it came to picking furniture for our home boy did we disagree, and these disagreements were strong ones! Remember sometimes you have to let your partner make some decisions, and sometimes their decision might be the best thing you’ve ever done.

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It’s a complete learning curve and everybody’s relationship is different, and if you take anything from this post, please just remember that. If you don’t argue with your partner and your friend does, it doesn’t mean either of you have a better relationship, all people are different and thats reflected within your relationship. If you found any of this helpful, let me know in the comments and feel free to share your experiences too! Alternatively you can always head to Ryan’s blog where he talks about everything and anything that I don’t. -G,x

Outfit
Waistcoat-vintage // Shorts-Topshop // Ryans shirt-AllSaints

Photos taken by : Henry Mandeville

 

 

 

 

 

16 thoughts on “Living Together With The Boyfriend For The First Time

  1. Living with flatmates for the first time really opened my eyes – I still don’t understand how someone can be so messy!!! I thought it was common courtesy to throw your rubbish in the bin and wipe down the work surfaces but apparently! But then again I’m sure there are things that I do that annoy them. xx

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      1. It does test a friendship but I guess it also tests a relationship too. Once you know you can live with someone, you know you can withstand most things! x

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  2. I’ve also been living with my boyfriend for the first time and it’s such a difficult (but fun!) experience to learn about each other. I’m glad you’re feeling the same. ❤

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  3. Great post. I live with my partner have done for about 7 years. My hardest struggle is that I moved from Hampshire not too far from where you are based I went to school at All Hallows. But now I live in Essex and I don’t drive so not seeing my family is the hardest for me, and making new friends lol I find it harder as I get older.
    Claire 🙂

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    1. See although I don’t live as far away from my family, I also live a lot further away and don’t drive either – so I completely relate here! I’m getting more used to it but it’s been a struggle for me too! -G,x

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  4. This was actually really interesting. Of what I’ve seen, you both handle living together pretty well! I know at times everyone will have disagreements (especially with the people you love) and I think you both are great together x

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    1. I actually surprised myself with how well we moved in together because everyone warned me of the stress. Believe it or not moving in was pretty breezy really, but getting a puppy caused more stress in the relationship 😂. Although now, Junos basically the most loved member – how things change! -G,x

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    1. I forgot I didn’t mention that one in the vlogs, we didn’t know when we were planning to buy and I was worried people would be judgemental with the idea of it, looking back now I’m pretty sure everyone would just be super supportive of the idea 🙂 -G,x

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  5. Love this post! Watching the relationship that you and Ryan have grow over these past two years has been lovely, especially in daily vlogs! I love the blog as something personal to you too, I started one just last month and it’s so fun and therapeutic to do! My insta is @elsviolet. Keep up the great content!

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  6. I love how easily the transition seemed to happen for you and Ryan. The furniture worry is definitely a concern I have when the time comes for me to finally move out of my parent’s house; I’m someone who has to have matching furniture, or at least furniture that coordinates, so making compromises like that would be SO difficult. I suppose that’s one of the many things you learn when you move house, though, along with many other lessons about teamwork and sharing along the way!

    Rebekah Gillian | http://rebekahgillian.co.uk

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